But I do know this—if you rely on this idea too much, your dating life will get really confusing.Growing a relationship involves growing intimacy (emotional, sexual, etc.).
Don’t get me wrong, as a professional counselor and as a woman who has gone through the world of dating, I think the question of physical boundaries is really important and requires some serious thought and consideration.Anything can jolt us awake, a death in the family or even a birth.5. For those dating, it can be exhilarating—actual, real-live, skin-to-skin contact with someone of the opposite sex.But eventually, the clock strikes midnight and Cinderella must run home before the stage coach becomes a pumpkin and her dress returns to rags. Burying is not always bad; it's a sign that the relationship is real and weaves into your everyday existence.The important thing to remember here is to "unbury" yourselves.along the lines of, "The day you wake up and say you have married the wrong person is the day that your marriage truly begins." It means that this is the day where the veil of infatuation lifts and the 20/20 vision of everyday living comes in."Wow, she is neurotic.""OMG, he tells the worst jokes.""I didn't think about him at all yesterday. Before you know it, conversations focus on things like who's doing the laundry, your boss, or the crazy mother-in-law.I hope we are OK."The landing can feel light and sweet, or rocky and discombobulating. During the burying stage, other things—like, oh, life—begin to encroach on your beautiful oasis of a relationship.Infatuation makes your dopamine levels soar, producing a full-body euphoria that causes humans to seek out sex again and again.To wit, brain scan studies show that the brain during orgasm is 95 percent the same as the brain on heroin.Rather, intimacy has to grow organically and at its own pace.It may die if you cease to coax it forward by sharing new things with your partner.