Despite all this, here I am, sipping an expensive cocktail amid a sea of young Jews schmoozing around a dance floor.
However, I come with questions: What is everyone doing here?
According to Spark Networks, which now owns JDate, the number of paid subscribers to its Jewish networks (it also recently acquired the dating app JSwipe) declined to around 65,000 last year from about 85,000 in 2012. It’s so over,” said a single woman in her early 40s at a recent Chabad happy hour for young professionals.
Even though she is adamant about only dating Jewish, she said, she still uses secular dating apps to find a Jewish partner.
At the top of her profile, she clearly states her “Jewish only” interest.
She said she’s committed to dating Jewish because she is heavily invested in her Jewish identity.
Some of the Jews in their mid-20s I spoke with said they are turned off by Jewish dating apps, because they seem more focused on finding partners to start families with than finding people to hook up with or date casually.
Benji Marx, a 26-year-old musician and educator in Berkeley, uses the Internet to meet people, but he does not have profiles on JDate, Bubby or JSwipe, because he finds them alienating.
The most recent event — a dinner for 60 people — sold out, and coming up is a Purim party organized with Emanu-El and a weekend trip to Las Vegas at the end of February.She decided to attend last minute, donning a long shimmery skirt and tight crop top, and she brought her non-Jewish roommate along as a sidekick.A psychiatrist in his early 30s said he preferred the event to any dating apps.“Let’s just say I like a lot of women, and Jewish women are included in that.But they don’t have to be Jewish.” A recent story in the New York Times reported that online niche dating sites like JDate, which emerged in 1997 and at its height had hundreds of thousands of users, are on the decline.We’re nonaffiliated, nondenominational, and try to appeal to both synagoguegoers as well as those who would never set foot in a synagogue,” said Doochin, 29, who brainstormed the idea with older brother Jonathan shortly after moving to San Francisco a year ago.Doochin was inspired by the Jewish social scene that he left behind in Boston, like the monthly party “Gin & Jews” — a bar hangout described on its Facebook page (2,328 likes) as “the chosen hour.” “It was a great thing, to have community, people to hang out with, ways to meet each other. He worked on his concept with Tal Yeshanov, whom he met through programming at Congregation Emanu-El — a perfect match given Yeshanov’s experience organizing Second Saturday, a now-defunct Jewish singles mixer that took place monthly at the Cellar in San Francisco. I’ve had a lot of people say that the Federation and other established organizations haven’t been filling the need, and I think that’s why this has so organically grown into such a big community,” said Doochin.Most are friendly and enthusiastic, if a little bit sheepish about why they are there.“I’m here to meet someone,” said one partygoer who requested anonymity.“The dating websites for Jews are really oriented to having a family.They feel similar to that same mindset from Jewish camp, where the prized campers are the ones who meet at camp and got married and now have a plaque on the wall at the dining hall.