We still must question who it is exactly that is texting or messaging us because, more often than not, one’s online presentation is enhanced—some go so far as to fictionalize their personalities to get dates.
Those who remain 100 per cent honest about who they are when using dating tools are few and far between.
We’re used to customizing everything from our Facebook feeds to the news we read to the possibility of “designer babies,” so it makes sense that we seek a partner who meets our romantic specifications. Religious spaces like mosques are typically gender segregated, and many Muslim millennials who grew up in North America find the idea of arranged marriage outdated.
Instead of going the traditional route, they are taking the search into their own hands while respecting their parents’ beliefs and wishes.
Popular dating apps and sites such as Tinder and Ok Cupid don’t make it any easier.
“Everyone in their 20s will tell you they’re not on Tinder to hook up, but really that’s what they want: fun with no strings attached,” Sonia says. I actually want someone consistent and exclusive.” A dating app called Muzmatch aims to change how young Muslims pursue love.
Minder is an alternative to platforms like Tinder, where “swiping” for casual dates is not the end goal, marriage is.
Adeela*, 22, has tried Minder and Tinder in her quest for “an open-minded brown guy who adheres to the same moral standards,” which, to her, means a guy who does not drink or do drugs, and of whom her parents would approve.Members can filter their search down to Islamic dressing (hijab or no hijab) and how often the person prays.Muzmatch is not the only player in the Muslim dating-app game.” Twenty-one-year-old Rabia* agrees: “I want control over picking who I’m going to spend the rest of my life with.” This love connection (or lack thereof) among Muslims is more common than you might think.The Muslim population is growing faster than any other religious group in the country (in 2011 it hit the one million mark), and for Muslims looking to partner up with others who meet their criteria, swiping right on the most popular dating apps is not an option.But things went south when, on separate occasions, her online dates turned out to be completely different from their profiles (one already had a girlfriend and the other got drunk and popped Xanax).“I was appalled at how well [one of the guys] played off the innocent boy act when he was actually a fuqboi [a.k.a. “Finally, after a couple hours, I got out of there by acting as if I had a strict curfew and had to get home.” Which goes to show that no matter what type of newfangled, love-luring app or site comes down the pipeline, nothing is foolproof.Since most pools of friends are no longer in the habit of matchmaking (a lost art), many singles from all backgrounds are left with stories of many, many awkward coffee meetings.But for those of us who continue to search for a proper soulmate—regardless of preference—one thing is for certain: Bad dates know no religious bounds.With a membership that numbers more than 35,000 lonely hearts, the app mimics traditional Muslim chaperone-accompanied matchmaking by allowing women to include guardians in their conversations with potential matches, and claims to be for single Muslims seeking marriage.Launched by 31-year-old Shahzad Younas, a former investment banker this love connection problem is more common in Canada than you think.