All 3 got proposals and rings, but today only 1 is still married to that husband.. That is the job of her parents, siblings, grandparents. Tell her to sell the house, dump the boyfried and get on with her life. She made a horrible choice, but it was her choice to make. The best you can do for her is to give her a shoulder to cry on, when it all comes crashing down. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. I'd give a guy 3-6 months after we'd had the "Lets get married" talk to actually propose. If it didn't happen, I'd revisit the topic and then if he still doesn't come around SOON, I'd be gone.
And neither of the 2 women has remarried abut do have children from that marriage. I would say that even tho your a cousin, you're to far removed to have it be your place to say something to him. And to not make things worse by marrying this man, who obviously does not want to make a committment to her. So even if he did give in, what kind of marriage would that be? Moving in together is NEVER a wise move (even when you're engaged).
She needs to hire a realtor and put their house on the market A. She purchased a house with him with NO RING OR MARRIAGE PROPOSAL????? He may be the type to never marry but want the whole house, kids etc. She should stop talking to others unless it's a professional who can help her sort out her style of conflict resolution and communication, and she needs to talk to HIM! The 3 women I know that gave their boyfriends ultimatums..
"Ask me by ( a certain date) or I will move on and know you do not want to marry me.". This guy is not interested in marriage or it would be done already. Don't bother nagging, begging, convincing, threatening, him to do it, he doesn't WANT TO. His track record should've clued her in to not buying a house with him.
But honestly, I'm not sure there is a meeting of the minds here, so likely he would feel pressured into it. But, if I were you, I wouldn't say one word to the boyfriend. He may think buying a home is a bigger commitment to her than just a ring and a piece of paper. She obviously loves him enough to make this commitment to him. You should definitely not talk to her boyfriend but tell HER to talk to him.
He's getting exactly what he wants with no strings attached, but it's not your place to say something. Maybe they both do want to get married in the future. They shouldn't have to get married next week to keep everyone else happy. However, is she upset because of how HE makes her feel or because of how EVERONE ELSE makes her feel about this situation? Not a passive-aggressive, mad, or pressuring talk but just honest to goodness this is what i want, what is it that you want talk. some guys do date for years before popping the question -- my friend just got engaged and they were dating for over 5 years and had talked about marrying forever too.
Encourage her to do this, if there is ANY HOPE of the guy coming around, it would be after some time to himself. And Please try to convince her not to do something like this ever again!!!! They need to have open communication now or their relationship will not succeed. Must be very hard for you to see your cousin go through this.
This is her life and between the two of them to work out. She shouldn't have bought a house and moved in with him. (Hopefully, they do not have children together.) 5.
You can be a supportive person for her, but I wouldn't get in the middle of it. I think he will never propose because he is getting what he wants - walking all over her, and she is letting him. If my niece asked for my advice on that particular situation, I would tell her to: 1. Go find a man that appreciates her, wants her forever and loves her enough to put a ring on her finger, THEN buy a home.
My cousin has been dating her boyfriend for 6 years, she wants to get married.
They have talked about getting married for years now, but he never pops the question. 2) If I was going to talk with anyone, it would be my cousin - and even then only if she ASKED for my advice.