Yet even with all this deep communication going on, at least one aspect of these friendships inherently involves a mixed message.
No matter how clearly one or both of you have defined what's happening as "just friends," your are constantly saying, "I enjoy being with you and interacting with you in a way that suggests marriage (or at least romantic attraction)." The simple reality (of which most people are aware, whether they admit it or not) is that in the vast majority of these types of relationships, one of the parties involved either began the "friendship" with romantic feelings for the other person or develops them along the way.
Either way, that person is now hanging on to the "friendship" in the hope of getting something more despite the "clear words" from the other person that he or she wants nothing beyond friendship.
In other words, they tend to involve much of the type of intimacy and companionship involved in — and meant for — marriage.
Ladies, might there be men who would have initiated with you but for their uncertainty about or discomfort with your intimate friendship with another man?
Guys, has a woman perhaps turned you down over questions about a woman friend you spend lots of time with?
Unlike most other people of our age and experience, we are (insert favorite answer here) a) really astute students of our own and each other's hearts, b) -clear and talented communicators, c) always honest with each other, even when such honesty entails huge vulnerability for whoever is speaking, d) all of the above." Maybe.
But here I would pose the question that is relevant to so many aspects of the courtship and dating topic.