Here, nine couples reveal how long they waited and why.Five months: "We were in love and wanted to start the rest of our lives together.My friends were taking pictures of us when he got down on one knee and proposed!But one of those annoying tourist trap photographers with a Polaroid camera decided to step in front of my friend who was taking pictures with his nice camera.It's not weird to talk about your one-day wedding.Similarly, when marriage is a foregone conclusion, you don't feel funny letting him know that you read Save the Date every day or that you must have peonies at your wedding.A good friend of mine had been dating a guy for about a year-and-a-half when she confessed to me that when she envisioned her wedding day, she couldn't imagine her current boyfriend there. If you can't get your mind to a ceremony with your man, there's no way you'll get your body there.(They broke up, and about two years later, she's engaged to someone else with whom she was easily able to picture herself exchanging vows!
If you're heading toward marriage, it wouldn't be so crazy if they invited you to join (though if you're not invited, it doesn't mean you're not going to marry your guy--I wasn't included in Paul's giant family cruise…seven years into dating him).The photographer literally kicked him out of the way while my other friend was taking a video. ' The tourist photographer wouldn't leave us alone until we paid him for the two crappy Polaroid pictures, so we threw some change at him and walked away.I still said yes, we were still engaged, and we laugh about the story now! "My boyfriend and I had been dating for about three years at the time and he had recently moved from New York to Ohio for me. For the rest of the day, I had to deal with turning away congratulations for my non-proposal.This is crucial because neither of you should have to give up friendships during marriage, and it's so much easier to maintain those relationships if you each get along with the other's crew.You can picture yourselves standing together at the altar.It's a very good sign if he's talking about your wedding, too, but don't worry if he's not--as long as he's happy to hear you chat about it, you're in good shape.You're each considered a part of the other's family.We are both in our 30s, and I think once you reach a certain age, you know what you want and you know what you need and when you find it, you hold on tight." Nine months: "I remember thinking at three months that I would totally marry him right now.But then we got to know each other even more, we got into some necessary arguments, and our love grew even stronger.We are both really happy with how fast everything happened.We got married less than six months later than our engagement.