Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing bad in finding your man’s height swoon-worthy.Yet, when I think about why I thought tall guys were more attractive, I found that it boiled down to one thing: my own insecurities. While I didn’t exactly have an eating disorder, I can’t recall a time during my adolescence when I wasn’t on some sort of diet.Of course, standing at 6 feet tall herself, she has a different outlook on height when it comes to dating shorter men.“As a conventionally taller woman, I’ve come to find that, of course, tall, dark, and handsome is not discouraged, but not a requirement,” she says, noting that a man who doesn’t mind her wearing heels is a bona fide keeper.“I’ve never dated a guy I wasn’t taller than in heels.But it’s not middle school anymore, where I towered over just about everyone and hated it. ”This writer is no Amazon—I’m a paltry 5-feet-5—but like Chelsea and Chioma, I think confidence and a good head on your shoulders is really what it’s about in this declining dating economy.
Why do so many women feel the need to shrink away, as I did, when I was wearing those wedges?As long as you’re confident, I’m not going to rule you out,” she says.Market Editor Chelsea Zalopany couldn’t agree more.”It was a year after college, and the person asking me that was a guy I had just started casually dating.He actually was a couple inches taller than me, but the question caught me off guard. probably not,” I awkwardly admitted, embarrassed that I had gone with the two-inch wedges. ” She laughed at me and said, “Oh, I promise, your priorities are going to change.” “Not about that,” I replied. When Mark asked me to his dance months later, I not-so-politely declined—“Oh, Mark, you know we are just friends”—and instead accepted a later invitation from his significantly taller but significantly less charming friend.Slowly, this extreme standard of height waned, but I still felt awkward if he was near as tall as I was.After all, shouldn’t the right man make me feel feminine and small?Hang out in any girl’s college dorm room for long enough, and you know: Height matters in dating.“I just want to be smaller, like you,” I remember one college friend—one exceptionally tall and exceptionally gorgeous college friend—telling me as I slid on my heels for that night’s outing.When dating a swaggy but diminutive Cuban salsa dancing world champion in her 20s, she was unfazed by his slight stature.“When we made out, he wouldn’t take off his Buffalo high-tops, but I still fancied the pants off of him!