Is dating multiple people dishonest, sleazy, and flat-out wrong?
Or is it healthy, even beneficial, to date multiple people at the same time in your quest to find a soul mate?
Imagine being at a buffet where you could see only one item at a time. I'm dating around so I can make sure I'm with the right person ultimately. Eh, that joke was funny but not as funny as the ones that the guy I date on Saturdays tells. Great, now I've met another person who knows I'm dating this person and I have to spend my dates with other people looking for that person like they're a spy who could cause my undoing. Ugh, but it'd be so much easier to schedule one after the other so I don't have to go home in between. Wait, I wonder if he has information I should know about. One of them is having feelings for you and it is not the one you like the most. Preferably at the same bar so I could just sit there all night motionless like a beached seal. You can't go to your favorite bar on all your dates because the others might see you there. He really is the keeper to my freaky universe and I should probably tip him more. You know you're going to have to have The Talk with them and tell them you're not interested in becoming exclusive, but also they're really good at going down on you and losing that will suuuuuck. You're having feelings for one of them but you're not ready to give up on your cool new sex cult. When you're on a date with one person but thinking about another person. This guy has superior abs and is a better listener most of the time. Even if I double up on something, I can just pretend my phone sent the text twice. What if their roommate/friend you met sees you on a date with someone else? When you tell a story a bunch of times because you can't remember which one you already told it to. OK, I think I'm just gonna copy/paste text all three of them as much as possible. Especially when I'm seeing other people besides you in a romantic context, which I am absolutely doing right now. When you tell someone you just want to keep it casual for now and they think that just means you don't want to get married and have kids within the year. Rest in peace, that one time I dated like a baller. Is one guy or gal a little more thoughtful than the rest?Is there one person whose jokes crack you up more than all the others?Great, now I have to find multiple destinations in completely different neighborhoods so I don't accidentally overlap and then have to have an awkward exchange in the middle of the street. I kind of like one of them, I do, but I also currently like boning multiple randos more. Making sure one hookup isn't leaving things at your place that another hookup could find later. Plus, isn't it better that I'm not committing to someone I'm not sure about than to commit too soon and still reminisce about rando boning? Aww, this love note you left on my pillow in the morning is completely cute but now I have to hide it in an old grocery bag I'll shove in my closet so the person I have coming over in an hour doesn't get offended by something they technically don't have any right to be offended by because it's only our third date. It is one thing for me to be dating multiple people, but I am supposed to be the most incredible person you have ever met, so much so that you cannot even fathom ever dating anyone else again as long as you live!