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She has written for the New York Times, Newsweek, ZINK, and Modern Drummer, among others. It will also create a new complication in your kids' life, if you have any.We have a set of questions that you need to ponder on before choosing to date your ex-spouse again. Three years ago, when I was 56, I suggested to my husband that he move out of our house in New Jersey. As he was settling into his new apartment in Manhattan, he called. We would stay separated for a year and, somehow, together, figure out this whole thing. Sometimes, emerging from a divorce, it takes a while for things to add up. We pledged that we would always be friends, and our family would survive. After a few minutes, as we were about to hang up, he told me that he was "seeing someone.""Seeing someone." Two words that splintered my head into speechlessness, followed by a dizzying internal stream of, What about "Our family would survive"? Try to remember how you felt about it and who is to be blamed.Also Read: Remember This After A Break-up If you find that the blame lies with your partner, it may not be a good idea to get back together now. Lois De Socio is a journalist with 30 years' experience writing for newspapers, magazines, and websites. We picked at tuna and scallops, washed down with wine for him and vodka for me. A nice man who, in just 90 minutes, unwittingly gave me back myself.A couple in love can forgive and forget a lot of things, but infidelity is rarely one among them.If one of you cheated on the other when you were married, it was a serious breach of trust.