Maybe it’s as simple as making sure your kids go to bed early so that you and your spouse can spend 1 hour together watching a favourite show on tv, doing a jigsaw puzzle together or even just sitting on the couch, talking and cuddling.
You are not a parental failure if you rely on child care once in a while so that you and your spouse can go out to attend a dinner party together, watch a show, have dinner or catch up on a game of tennis.
On the other hand, you’re still legally married and some ties are still there.
Some relationship experts counsel never dating while separated but not divorced.
Whilst all these activities are wonderful and bring immense joy and richness to the lives of us as parents, they do little to foster the romantic connections which you had before you got married and had kids.
Before you consider getting back into the dating game, you’ll need some real honest talks with your ex. If your ex is hoping for a reconciliation, they’re not going to love the idea of you dating someone new.
If you’re separated but not divorced, dating is a tricky subject.
On one hand, it’s natural to want to find companionship and move on from your marriage.
Don’t underestimate how romantic folding laundry, changing light bulbs and gardening can be.
If you do them together and use the time to talk to each other and connect, they can be part of a wonderful daily routine which brings you closer to each other.