Both parties are Black Americans because the Black American born in America to Nigerian parents will differ little from a Black American born of parents of any other nationalities.They are both bred in the same country and, supposedly, same culture.I am not saying this is enough to wreck a relationship, but just wanted you to know that he is Americanized in some ways and in others not.I did not read every line of your post but I fail to see the difference.I expressed the importance that I hear he loves me and I do hear that from time to time.We are in a bit of a tough spot because of and ex-spouse and I'm having trouble as an American woman I want to talk it to death, but he is withdrawn and quiet. Hang in there, Nigerian born or culture is different but the man is definately worth it. Perhaps it should be the same, but the person grew up in London and was back and forth to Nigeria, and believe me, there are differences.Most folks “tend to be comfortable with the culture they can identify with”, Anthony said.Not enough interaction Diane kind of hit the nail on the head when she wrote: “On my part, I think both parties have bought into the stereotypes.
I share these examples with you to show you how there is a difference.I realize that this could be any man to some degree, but all of the black men I have dated up until now have been pretty expressive---in fact, they will even mislead or lie about their feelings or emotional stuff.This person will actually "demonstrate" how he feels through his actions (and this is a good thing), but he is less likely to say how he feels and if he does, it will be said one time and that's it. American men typically know that hugs and affection are expected and understand that women want this---at least the ones I have dated.A couple of girls felt that the African Americans tend to think that they are superior to Africans, showing less respect for them than the Caucasians who are more open to learning about different cultures.Distrust African women tend to believe that African American men are ‘playas’, out looking for nothing but a good time.that I am sure you agree often exists between Africans and African Americans.In as much as my intention is not to generalize or stereotype, I am writing this article based on real life experiences and events.It was stated that those who do ask African women out are not usually looking for serious long term relationships and African ‘sistas’ out here in the diaspora are often very much aware of their ticking biological clocks; they have no time to waste playing around.Not much in common Fundamental cultural differences serve as a huge divide between both groups; they do not share the same values for the most part.Earlier this year, I believe in January, a client walked into my office, his name JD (I am sure he is going to read this article).For the record, JD is an African American male and I am an African female.