If you can distance yourself for a while and no longer feel the romantic butterflies, you can always give them a call and may be able to pick up somewhere near where you left off.
Continue the relationship with your own hidden agendas - a desire for romantic intimacy and the hope that the person will realize that they feel the same way If they become involved with someone else in the meantime, you can work to sabotage their new relationship or you can leave them wondering where all your anger and hurt feelings are coming from.
Do you actually TALK directly and honestly with your friend about how you feel?
What will happen to the relationship if you make the WRONG choice?
You have confided to each other about your latest love interest and turned to one another for support when the relationship(s) failed. Could it be that your feelings for him/her have grown into something more?
You have known each other for a few years and have shared meals, movies, hobbies and vacations. You've been having very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship.
You've been overprotective of her since she has been seeing the jerk.
Think things through before acting on such feelings. And if you decide to pursue something with her guy, you can, quite possibly, kiss your friendship goodbye. And picture yourself breaking up with the guy and being left with no guy and no friend. A good course of action might be to spend less time with the two of them, and instread focus on going places with other people, where you can meet a guy of your own! If you are definitely interested in this guy, and the feelings are mutual, at least wait until he's broken up with your friend before you make your move.
In return for all this, you will still have your friend.
Begin to spend less time with your friend (crush) while seeking out new friendships to pursue and strengthen This option will most likely cause confusion and hurt on the part of your friend who will wonder what happened.
She specializes in working with singles wanting lasting, intimate relationships.
Toni has over 20 years of post-masters experience in relationship and coaching.