Thousands of couples will walk down the aisle this Saturday, 7-7-07, hoping all those 7s -- the number long associated with luck -- will keep them lucky in love.It's one of the most popular wedding dates in modern history, according to overwhelmed wedding planners, florists, and photographers.But as the honeymoon period wanes, and day-to-day difficulties crop up, the word can come up frequently during arguments for some couples, say relationship counselors."Just don't go there," suggests Steve Brody, Ph D, a psychologist in Cambria, Calif., who counsels couples.Co-authors Mat Boggs and Jason Miller, bachelors and childhood buddies from Portland, Ore., traveled the country to interview the couples, married 40 or more years, and ask for their best marriage tips."Don't use the D word" was one oft-repeated suggestion for keeping a happy marriage, Boggs says."One man told me, 'Let's say someone is walking by when you are criticizing your mate.
To make this marriage tip easier to practice, consider the input of one marriage master on the topic, Boggs says."It's playing with fire." One exception, in his book: If a wife has a friendship with a gay man or a husband has a friendship with a gay woman, he's fine with that, since the romance potential is nonexistent.Otherwise, he says, the line is too easy and tempting to cross.But when the problem is less severe, many of the marriage masters told him they create a "ledger of life." They get out a piece of paper and write down everything they love about their spouse.Eventually, they shift gears and begin to focus on what is right, not what's wrong."Some people pull that out much too early, and much too often in a relationship.It raises a whole level of anxiety [in the person hearing it]." Divorce is also considered a dirty word by the more than 200 "marriage masters" interviewed for the book, Project Everlasting."Women expected to be loved, cherished, listened to, cared for, and courted," Steve Brody says.They had a long list of wants and expectations, he recalls.Relationship experts caution, however, that much more than luck is needed to stay together and beat the odds of a divorce, now estimated to end half of today's marriages.Here, relationship experts consulted by Web MD offer their best marriage tips for how to stay lucky in love.