How does one resolve the yearning for freedom with the need for a settled life?A friend of mine has a pact with her husband that if one of them has a one-night stand while traveling away from the family, it's okay."When I got through his voice was very distant and he asked whether I had got the e-mail he had just sent me."I hadn't and it turned out it was basically breaking up with me. We spoke for about an hour but I just remember crying and crying and crying." Swinton, who is up for an Academy Award for her role alongside George Clooney in "Michael Clayton," met Kopp in 2004 on the set of "Narnia," a film in which she starred and Kopp had a brief, non-speaking role as a centaur.She lives in a large, rambling house in Scotland with her twins and their father, playwright John Byrne — and her lover, Sandro Kopp, a beautiful, shaggy-haired artist nearly 20 years younger than she is, sometimes lives there too.When pressed by reporters, she has called her arrangement "sane," which is about the last word most of us would associate with that kind of home life. "What you must also know is that we are all very happy." No doubt there are hidden difficulties that Swinton is not delving into."He would meet a beautiful woman and say, 'Come home and I'll paint you.'"But as years passed and Sandro became more focused on developing his film career -- beginning with a small role as an elf in "Lord of the Rings" -- his growing obsession with celebrity caused fissures in their relationship, Emma said."I noticed Sandro's ego increase as he grew more and more starstruck.
How can we balance the comfort and stability of marriage with the desire for novelty and freshness?
"They snuck off together after filming stopped for a week, travelling in Sandro's old Mitsubishi van with the seats taken out and a double bed in the back. But my impression is that at that stage her husband didn't know, and certainly the children didn't." Sandro asked Emma not to speak about the illicit romance: "He didn't want to upset Tilda's career."Emma describes her ex as an artistic free spirit -- and a womanizer who was never very good at monogamy.
"It was the van he and I had done so many journeys around the country in. "For the first eight months he did not agree to monogamy with me," she said.
In an interview with Britain's Daily Mail, Williamson, 26, spills her guts on getting jilted by Swinton's new arm candy, with whom she was once "deeply in love." Turns out he did it the classy way -- via e-mail from the set of "The Chronicles of Narnia," where he and Swinton met.
"I was really missing Sandro so I rang him," Williamson, a red-haired Brit, told the paper.