Just to remind our readers about Bankerella's post, a bit self absorbed?Every week I handle a bunch (call it a round half-dozen) of challenges that I consider to be a basic part of my life. Be unable to get enough time to eat or use the bathroom for 6-8 hours. Stand up for yourself to the guy who signs your checks.Over at Wall Street Oasis, a blogger writing under the pseudonym Bankerella has stirred up quite a controversy by rating the suitability of men in finance for extremely busy women in investment banking.(Spoiler alert: she prefers traders over all contenders.) It’s the type of thing obviously designed to stir things up. Many are written by men, who are outraged that a woman would dare rate their suitability in this way (because, you know, guys never do that sort of thing). The best one asked why Bankerella limits her dating pool to people in finance.This is what normal looks like in some industries, at some levels. He's constantly freaking out about challenges that wouldn't be challenges at all if he weren't such a delicate [____]ing flower.
They expect little, are happy with what little they get, and assume they don't need to add (much) value."He doesn't deserve you," they would say, my own Greek chorus."You're so much better than him." Then, inevitably: "Why are New York men such assholes?She responds by describing the non-finance man as a “scrub” who cannot possibly merit her respect.It’s an extreme stance, but it is by no means unique among her Wall Street colleagues. If you choose to read on, prepare for lots of f-bombs.) So yeah, let's talk about the typical scrub, and why I can't handle being around him.Take a read (I’ve cleansed her response of profanity but I think you’ll easily get the flavor of her language): Sure, if you can find any that you can enjoy and respect. Every week I handle a bunch (call it a round half-dozen) of challenges that I consider to be a basic part of my life. Be unable to get enough time to eat or use the bathroom for 6-8 hours. Stand up for yourself to the guy who signs your checks.Make a big, career-defining decision on data you know is bad.But let's be real: banker girls don't typically have time to search for the needle in that haystack. Dating a trader isn't [____]ing where you eat, because bankers and traders don't work together.Obviously, you'd still want to get a trader from a different bank.Seasoned professionals (especially traders, also lawyers) know that the clock is ticking. Also, the time I've spent with scrubs has just been comedic. Scrubs don't even understand the deliciousness of those hours or why you need to squeeze anything out of them.I'm not even fully convinced that they know what an hour is.