Falling in love is such an intangible, indescribable and deeply personal feeling that you can now compare it with other couples’ experiences on a handy relationship milestone timeline.has documented the average time it takes us to fall in love, and the milestones that come with it, based on research involving around 2,000 people.He was dishing about a new love interest—one he'd known for several weeks and with whom he was hoping to get, err, a little more intimate. At the time I invited my boyfriend to tag along for our annual New Year's Eve adventure, I'd known him three months, and the trip was still three months away.He took just a few days to make up his mind, and neither of us regret his decision. The answers to these questions are far more important than what a clock has or hasn't ticked toward.In other words, you can take the most inexplicable, illogical phenomenon, and turn it into a comparable, measurable, definable exercise.Think military role-play in the bedroom, but expanded into every part of your relationship. Comparisons get us into dangerous places, and feeling obliged to behave a certain way or commit to something because of societal expectations will almost always end in heartbreak.
If you’ve found the right partner, the journey would be like heaven on earth.Perhaps you can’t afford that all-important holiday abroad at 298 days.Or perhaps babies aren’t on your timeline at all, and financial restrictions mean you’ll never buy a home together.Still, my male friend's response prompted me to bring up the idea that we'd moved too fast with another friend on the trip. In fact, here's an example to illustrate my point: I know a couple who got engaged just four months after meeting (which, to me, seemed oh so fast).She replied, "I don't think there's a single timeline that works for every couple."Here on Smitten, we've tackled the idea of moving too fast in an uber-specific way: A friend who, after a month of dating, said yes when her man popped the question. But it's seven years later, and they're blissfully happy and rearing two adorably perfect children.Yes, your desire to become a parent may be getting stronger.You might want a steady partner and a seaside townhouse painted blue to call your own (just me? But forcing your feelings to fit a timeframe won’t get you there any sooner.A timeline also doesn't protect or insure you. I'm also asking those important questions as we move forward. Rather, I think we all have to decide, based on complete honesty with ourselves and our S. We have to ask ourselves the tough questions before we take big (and some little) steps forward: How well do I know my S. It's both freeing and fortifying to forget "when" you "should" take a step in your relationship, because if you're doing what's right for you both—and being honest with yourself along the way—you've got nothing, not even time, to fear. And now it’s time, in the words of the Daily Mail, to check whether your relationship is “on track”. Well, we fall in love after five months of dating, get engaged after two years and have a family within four years - and a lot of milestones fall around the six-month mark (leaving a toothbrush at your significant other’s place, and getting a drawer to keep your things in there as well – not to mention “revealing an imperfection” and letting your boyfriend see you without your make-up on).You can also use the timeline to check when you should start holding hands with your significant other, update social media relationship statuses, meet each other’s family and friends, and first get undressed with the lights on in front of one another (if it’s only been a month, keep those switches turned off, ladies.) A spokeswoman for said that we’re often reassured by hearing about the progress of others’ relationships, and that their findings can be used for that reassurance as well as help us to adjust our expectations if we’re not on schedule.