Sexual expression of our love for another person within God's context is an awesome, incredible experience.
Each of us is wired by the Creator to crave and respond to a mysterious and exciting mix of emotional and physical intimacy.
First, we know our bodies are telling us they want sex.
God made our bodies to want sex, but our mind knows God also sets parameters for the appropriate time and place for sex.
You may agree with or be confused by Julia's reasoning.
Whichever your take is, I want to assess various questions that are "out there" in popular culture before we get to "the answer." As we move through these factors, we will follow a trail that leads to what I believe is a healthy, intelligent answer that delivers the best goods for each of us.
I know what my religion says about sex before marriage but things are different now." Thus, Julia answered the question "How far is too far?
I bring up boundary setting first because it is so crucial for creating and sustaining a healthy, fun and rewarding dating relationship.
No matter what answer you ultimately come down to, if you don't set boundaries with your partner, you will blow the relationship to pieces.
Whether you are utterly convinced that hand-holding and kissing are for the engagement/marriage stage or whether you think that anything short of intercourse is okay while dating, if you don't set boundaries you will zoom right past your intentions.
Good intentions are a great start, but without clear and firm boundaries intentions are made only to be broken.