When I’m in China, I tend to turn a lot of heads, especially in the countryside — and that’s not just because I’m a foreigner.It’s because I’m often seen holding hands with my Chinese husband.I don’t doubt he loved me in the beginning — but once his family knew, I suspect they made it clear that there was no future in what we had.Even my own husband was first told by his parents that he could be friends with a foreign girl, but not date her.The post has many fans speculating that the 38-year-old is pregnant with her second child.The Boy is Mine singer captioned the photo: 'Dear God, I can finally see you in me.
However, the subtext is often that foreign women are a dangerous choice — too casual, the temptress, etc — or could not accept a Chinese way of life.Generally, the pressure to split up comes from the family since, after all, in China, marriage is a family affair.There was one Chinese boyfriend who told me, flat out, that his parents would never accept me.Not because he’s a Chinese man, or because our relationship is “unique” or different. R&B Diva Brandy Norwood is apparently pregnant by a married man who has 2 children of his own. On Monday, Brandy posted an image showing her growing belly bump.On occasion, it even creeps into the news, like this story.For now, though, I’m just happy to have John, my Chinese husband, in my life.Fortunately, their ideas changed when they met me in person!On the other hand, there are Chinese men — and their families — who would be happy to have a foreign woman in the family. For example, my good friend in Hangzhou, Xiao Yu, once told me that some Chinese men cannot overcome their feeling of inferiority — that being an American girl, a citizen of one of the most powerful countries in the world, made my presence somewhat intimidating.We shouldn’t be shocked if Brandy is indeed pregnant by a married man. When daughter Sy’rai Iman Smith was 2 years old, Brandy finally came clean and admitted she wasn’t married. Continue to use me so that I may continue to know the joy of being used by you. The revelation left her once squeaky clean public image in tatters.